It was not until over a year after her 2008 kidnapping that I began to accept that my brother’s wife was not going to come home. It took some other family members longer. In the early weeks after she was kidnapped, in the heat of the Niger Delta militancy, we had been involved in a lot of frenetic activity to get her out, negotiating, speaking with the police, militants, etc and there was some progress. Her driver and the friend…..